may I send my best wishes, kind regards and sincere condolences for the loss of your husband Ray. I realise it is quite a time since 2011, however I have just come across your sad news.
When we were only in our teens in Dublin we were friends. He may not have mentioned the gang of us that hung out together. We all enjoyed each other's company and played music together. He was then a lovely, kind, sweet, considerate and funny young man. I'm sure he went on to become even more delightful as a grown man.
He was in a band with my brother Martin Gregory who played the guitar. Mick O'Donovan was the pianist, Mark Colfer, the bass player and Colin Hannon the drummer. They all had such an enjoyable time playing together in the late 1970's.
I think that it is good deeds and fond memories that keep the soul of a person alive and give them a legacy. I know you and your boys keep Ray's life alive and I would like to add to that special reminiscence even though on a very peripheral level.
We used to play Baker Street on the saxophone together and it is one of the most happy memories I have of my teens.
wishing you and your boys the best for the future,
I cannot believe your boys are 18 & 16, amazing! I'm sure they do miss their dad. He is a great man - and one of the first things I do when I get to heaven is find him and hold him to that promise of a pint of Guinness! Oh, what things we'll discuss over that pint! :-) Glad to hear you are back in Cape Town - I know your heart was there, along with family (and better weather than Dublin).
Hang on to that Hope, and know that you remain in our prayers. If I can ever help in any way with Jack/Sam or specific prayers for you guys, please let me know. Hope this site provides some comfort for you also - I watched some video on it last night ("What to do when you're in the Pit" specifically) and found it a true blessing. Bring the box of tissues though if you watch.... :-)